We’ve been in the wedding planning and management business for around ten years so we’ve seen it all. The diva brides, the loved-up brides, the bridezillas, the groomzillas and the relaxed brides. (Believe us, we love them all!)
But the one thing that really sticks out in our minds is the ‘relaxed bride’ and the inevitable two-week out meltdown. I know you may be thinking ‘pfft, I’m a relaxed bride and I’m not going to let anything phase me!’ but believe me, you will more than likely have a meltdown just like everyone else.
So why do our relaxed brides end up panic stricken so close to their day? Basically, the reality of everything starts to sink in and their ‘relaxed’ nature has meant they have let others take care of the little details which are now outside their control. So anything that they imagined their wedding day to be, may not actually be. We have had many counselling sessions with gorgeous brides to help them through this phase but there are a few simple ways to make sure even the most relaxed bride doesn’t fret close to the big day.
Firstly, decide what is really important to you and be specific about it. Is the ceremony the most important part? How do you want it to run? Maybe the music and the dancing is the part you want your guests to remember? Whatever it happens to be, make sure you have a say about it and either manage it yourself or be specific about what you want to the designated person managing it for you.
Give yourself at least three days to make changes, add things or ‘take control’ before your big day. So, if you’re getting married on a Saturday, give yourself the Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday to add more decor, change your run times, add music to the playlists or whatever else you need.
Accept whatever you haven and whatever will happen on the Friday, relax and start to enjoy your wedding. The actual day goes so exceptionally fast so it is incredibly important to soak it up, and you can’t do that if you’re stressed! Take the full day on Friday to breathe, enjoy, see friends and family and truly relax so your wedding day is a beautiful one. Even if the bridesmaid dresses have shown up in the wrong colour, your transport has cancelled at the last minute or your wine hasn’t arrived, accept everything as it stands and know that no matter what, you get to be married tomorrow – which is what it’s all about.
If you’re worried that the details might grab you and stress you out at the last minute, why not hire a planner / coordinator to take control of your day for the final week? You don’t need to splash big cash for someone to manage the entire event from start to finish. You can simply ask them to take the reins, be your eyes, ears and stress-soaker-upper for the final days leading up to your wedding. Then have them do all the running around on the actual day itself.
So, even if you firmly believe you’re a relaxed bride and that nothing will phase you, prepare yourself for a mini-meltdown close to the day. Use these tips to prepare yourself and if possible, let professionals help you through it! xxx